Do you have a visceral reaction when your boundaries are crossed? For me, it’s anxiety with a side of rage. Repressed rage. On second thought, the anxiety comes from repressing the rage. Because I do feel rageful when someone crosses a boundary. Here’s the rub:
I love your description of the tower and now I want to see a Tarot card of The Tower based on it.
Especially because The Tower is a card that is all about life-revolutionizing revelations.
I think my level that I’m at is very similar. I know the anxiety that comes when a boundary you didn’t realize you had gets passed. A recent connection that I’ve made has ended up being the safest place I’ve felt where I can bring up that anxiety either at that moment, or the next day after I’ve passed through it to better understand why it was a boundary.
I don’t usually feel the rage unless it’s been distanced by time. A lot of my past relationships have that tied to them only because I know better now and wish I did then. But sometimes I’m able to make that rage dissipate by realizing that those were the levels of the tower I was at, and breaking through those levels is how I got to here.
It’s always difficult to see the progress we make until we have that retrospect.
Definitely can relate to all of this ~ and also very proud of the support system I've created for myself :) Thanks for being a part of it!!
What I see as required for me to reach my next level is embodying the fact that I am worthy of priority. I think that's where at least 90% of my resentment gets generated from is I leave myself to last and then wonder why I'm upset or hitting a wall (certainly already lightyears ahead of where I was AND always room to grow...). Also in line with that, stepping outside the story that me setting boundaries is somehow hurting other people ~ I truly believe that boundaries (even if we don't agree with them in the moment) are for the greater good of all involved. It's a chance for deeper connection and deeper understanding with ourselves and others.
Love this topic and your share. Also now have the best mental image of your daughter driving wildly around the city 😂🚗
I love your description of the tower and now I want to see a Tarot card of The Tower based on it.
Especially because The Tower is a card that is all about life-revolutionizing revelations.
I think my level that I’m at is very similar. I know the anxiety that comes when a boundary you didn’t realize you had gets passed. A recent connection that I’ve made has ended up being the safest place I’ve felt where I can bring up that anxiety either at that moment, or the next day after I’ve passed through it to better understand why it was a boundary.
I don’t usually feel the rage unless it’s been distanced by time. A lot of my past relationships have that tied to them only because I know better now and wish I did then. But sometimes I’m able to make that rage dissipate by realizing that those were the levels of the tower I was at, and breaking through those levels is how I got to here.
It’s always difficult to see the progress we make until we have that retrospect.
Definitely can relate to all of this ~ and also very proud of the support system I've created for myself :) Thanks for being a part of it!!
What I see as required for me to reach my next level is embodying the fact that I am worthy of priority. I think that's where at least 90% of my resentment gets generated from is I leave myself to last and then wonder why I'm upset or hitting a wall (certainly already lightyears ahead of where I was AND always room to grow...). Also in line with that, stepping outside the story that me setting boundaries is somehow hurting other people ~ I truly believe that boundaries (even if we don't agree with them in the moment) are for the greater good of all involved. It's a chance for deeper connection and deeper understanding with ourselves and others.
Love this topic and your share. Also now have the best mental image of your daughter driving wildly around the city 😂🚗