My current relationship is very similar dynamic. My boyfriend literally spends hours of his life writing/confronting/calling out "injustice" or things he feels don't make sense in the world and I can feel my whole body retract when it happens haha.
The thing I got most out of this share is the piece at the end of using relationships as containers for new ways of Being ~ I've definitely been practicing more allowance for anger/annoyance/voicing needs and I've been noticing a lot of almost...shame? around it (like "how dare I get angry ~ there must be something wrong with me/the relationship for this to show up"). and I think owning my process as an intentional/natural part of "death"/change and continuing to practice feels like a cool new perspective ~ rather than needing to like...upheave my entire relationship when something makes me angry 😂 some practice to hone/reign in the "fire hose" aspect would be good though ~ as you say, not a lot of affinity yet.
OMD JESS I AM SO GLAD YOU GOT THAT NOT SORRY FOR YELLING. You just perfectly explained why I have been married for ten years. I have an excellent container. I still have a lot to learn. and one day, he and I will either have moved on amiably from each other, OR we will be the cutest, funniest, most brilliant fucking old people ever. HASHTAG RELATIONSHIP GOALS.
For me, either way, it’ll be an adventure!
I so appreciate all that you shared 🥰 so good to have that spiderman pointing meme feeling
My current relationship is very similar dynamic. My boyfriend literally spends hours of his life writing/confronting/calling out "injustice" or things he feels don't make sense in the world and I can feel my whole body retract when it happens haha.
The thing I got most out of this share is the piece at the end of using relationships as containers for new ways of Being ~ I've definitely been practicing more allowance for anger/annoyance/voicing needs and I've been noticing a lot of almost...shame? around it (like "how dare I get angry ~ there must be something wrong with me/the relationship for this to show up"). and I think owning my process as an intentional/natural part of "death"/change and continuing to practice feels like a cool new perspective ~ rather than needing to like...upheave my entire relationship when something makes me angry 😂 some practice to hone/reign in the "fire hose" aspect would be good though ~ as you say, not a lot of affinity yet.
OMD JESS I AM SO GLAD YOU GOT THAT NOT SORRY FOR YELLING. You just perfectly explained why I have been married for ten years. I have an excellent container. I still have a lot to learn. and one day, he and I will either have moved on amiably from each other, OR we will be the cutest, funniest, most brilliant fucking old people ever. HASHTAG RELATIONSHIP GOALS.
For me, either way, it’ll be an adventure!
I so appreciate all that you shared 🥰 so good to have that spiderman pointing meme feeling
AHHHH YES. Adventure is a good way of relating to it.
I constantly feel like I have the spiderman pointing meme feeling with your shares. like YAY YOU TOO!? Love it. Happy Friday :)